Unlocking your inner senses, the magic of using a blindfold

Stuck in a sex rut? Try spending some time using a blindfold (or tie, or scarf… well really can use any strip of fabric you have laying around!) for some extended foreplay. It can be a great tool to significantly change the sexual dynamic. Before you jump into giving this a try, make sure you and your partner(s) have a conversation about boundaries when using sensory play. The YNM list (you can find this on the YNM blog) is a great tool to explore comfort and boundaries BEFORE trying something new.

The perks of using a blindfold!

When we block our sense of sight, our other sense become more heightened. Also, when we cannot see our partner(s) we are forced to get a bit more out of our own heads, which can help facilitate the mind-body connection for some (check out the blog on the missing orgasm for more information about the mind-body connection).

SO you have you have talked about everyone’s comfort levels and boundaries, you have your blindfold, now what? It’s time to find fun objects to explore your partner’s body. Think about how we experience and use our other senses. Some suggestions: an ice cube, warm massage oil, a feather, silky fabric, even a comb. Before setting up the scene check to make sure all items are within the other participant’s comfort and boundaries.

To increase the erotism a bit by having the blindfolded participant start fully clothed, while the items are slowly moved across their exposed skin. The explore can also try using different degrees of pressure with the items as they caress the participates skin. After the exposed skin has been explored, the explorer or participant can remove a piece of clothing and explore the new areas of exposed skin.

Lay it all out for me!

1) Have a conversation about sexual comforts and boundaries when using sensory play, you can use the YNM List to get this started.

2) Gather your materials.

3) Decide who will be wearing the blindfold and who will do the exploring.

4) EXPLORE with the sensory objects!

If you want to explore this further, send me a message or check with your local AASECT certified sex therapist